As I proudly blogged, I made 100 ribbon wands with pieces of ribbon, wooden dowels, and hot glue. It took ages but I kept my spirits up by imagining how beautiful all of the wands would look as they were waved to cheer us back down the aisle. Sadly, I never got the photos of our tightly-packed guests all waving ribbons at the same time. Due to rain, the ceremony was moved indoors to the reception area and the guests were seated at their assigned tables as we were married on the dance floor. The crowd wasn’t arranged properly to get a good shot of everyone waving them but that wasn’t even the true cause of the problem. Very few people waved them. I don’t even have a photo for this blog post. We forgot to ask the officiant to explain that they should be waved as we exited; our guests didn’t realize what they were supposed to do with them. So I learned the lesson for this “things learned” post.
While the wands’ purpose seems obvious to you as you’re gluing them together (and losing your mind,) it may not be obvious to those who haven’t spent months reading wedding blogs. This goes for all confetti alternatives including yarn pom-poms, birdseed (you never know when a guest will assume it’s a snack,) seeds, and even bubbles.
You have different options when it comes to spreading the instructions for your tosser:
- A simple and free option is to ask your officiant to instruct the crowd on what to do. Your officiant has probably announced something like this before and will be able to figure out an appropriate way to word it.
- If you have programs (something we nixed) you can make a note in the schedule, something like “Recessional – Shake your ribbon wands!”
- If you have children in your bridal party, they can announce that it’s time to shake, throw, or blow with a sign similar to this one on slide one. Most energetic kids would love the opportunity to run across the altar with a sign. The sign could read “Throw your pom-poms!”
- These two options work if you’ll have the guests pick up the tosser as they walk in: you can have someone hand out the tosser to guests as they arrive and explain that they should be thrown/shaken/blown at the end or if you display the tossers on a table at the entrance, you can include a sign that says “Please take one and throw it as we exit.”
Don’t assume your guests know everything. In fact, assume they know nothing. If you’re reading this, it means you have an acute, temporary condition known as wedding brain. You think about weddings, you read about weddings, you watch TV shows about weddings, your world revolves around weddings because wedding planning has temporarily replaced your life’s purpose. When you see a ribbon wand, birdseed, or pom-poms, you’ll instantly think about the recessional and the adorable photos these tossers will result in. Put yourself in Uncle Frank’s shoes now. Think he’s exited about tossers? You’d better over-explain it.